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She’s a Butterfly

She’s a Butterfly 0

I am in a transformation/metamorphosis right now. I can feel it happening under the surface, but I cannot quite put my finger on it, nor can I understand it mentally.  What is happening must be the work of my Higher Power, and the only explanation I have is that my discomfort spells out change on [...]

Courage to Change in Mid-Stride

Courage to Change in Mid-Stride 0

This morning, I read about priorities in Al-Anon’s Daily Reader.(Courage to Change: One Day at a Time in Al-Anon II, page 250).  I needed a reading on priorities, because this weekend, I sent myself in a tail-spin after being triggered by loneliness.  Of course, I wasn’t centered enough at the time to catch it before it [...]

To Begin Again, There Must Be an End 0

As the end of 2011 approaches, I have been doing a lot of reflecting on the year and opportunities for growth in my recovery.  I finished step four, started step five with my sponsor, and am eagerly approaching step six in the Al-Anon program.  I am ready to have God remove all these defects of [...]

Perfectionism: The New Way

Perfectionism: The New Way 2

I went to a meeting last week where they handed out candy canes with words attached to them. The words, individual to each person, served as the night’s topic. My word was perfectionism. My first reaction was just that I was no longer a perfectionist. Too easy. Once upon a time, I was a perfectionist. [...]

the red silk scarf

the red silk scarf 1

A visit to Christmas past … from days when I wore the addiction counseling hat.  Let me never forget the lessons learned in that decade.  Blessings to you and yours and remember what you “have” instead of what you “have not.” ~ Christmas was an especially difficult time for those of us in recovery and [...]

Taking Care of Yourself

Taking Care of Yourself 0

I am a single mother, work full-time, go to school full-time, am an active member in Al-Anon, plus a few other community-related events here and there.  My son has recently been diagnosed with asthma and allergy tests showed a severe allergy to dust, cats (of which we had two…they had to go bye-bye), plus other [...]

Delusional Cowboy Dad

Delusional Cowboy Dad 0

by Gaby Dunn I remember it as the time we all got “shipwrecked.” It’s the dramatic wording of an eight-year-old. We weren’t really shipwrecked, but we did get lost at sea. My dad’s bravado almost got us killed. It was 1996 in Punta Gorda, a fishing community on the west coast of Florida. My father [...]

“that” person…

“that” person… 2

Insult to injury leads to broken noses. oh wait. I’m non-violent. (damn Buddhism and damn recovery. I can’t get away with that these days.) Throw-away people. I was one of those today. You know the kind that sit in waiting rooms asking for those “hand outs.” The kind that have three children to care for [...]

The Need to Know vs. The Right to Ask

The Need to Know vs. The Right to Ask 0

One of the hardest things for me to do in life is accept things the way they are if I don’t understand them.  I can do it, but it is very difficult for me. My mother says the first word I learned was “No”, followed shortly by “Why?” It’s like I need a good reason [...]

Accepting that I Am Not God

Accepting that I Am Not God 1

This is tough for me to write but not as tough as it was to see it or accept.  (My sponsor is going to be thrilled. LOL) I finished Step 4 in Al-Anon a few weeks ago.  One of the things that was revealed to me during this process is that I have a habit [...]