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Laughter is the Best Medicine

Laughter is the Best Medicine 0

“A smile costs nothing but gives much.  It enriches those who receive without making poorer those who give.   It takes but a moment, but the memory of it sometimes lasts forever.   None is so rich or mighty that he cannot get along without it  and none is so poor that he cannot be made rich by it.  Yet a [...]

Trusting The Process

Trusting The Process 0

Until a few years ago, I thought that if I only had the right external conditions I would be happy. I tried hard to get to that point, and by most accounts, I did. That still did not bring me happiness. Addiction rescued me from going crazy by numbing the pain, the emptiness. That solution [...]

Sobriety: A State of Grace

Sobriety: A State of Grace 0

Every now and then, something will happen that reminds me how different my life is now that I’m not drinking. On her way out the door this morning, my wife, Chelle, called, “Be back late tonight!” I called back, “I’ll be here!” Pause. “And, I’ll be sober!” She said, “I know”; the door closed, and [...]

the red silk scarf

the red silk scarf 1

A visit to Christmas past … from days when I wore the addiction counseling hat.  Let me never forget the lessons learned in that decade.  Blessings to you and yours and remember what you “have” instead of what you “have not.” ~ Christmas was an especially difficult time for those of us in recovery and [...]

Who Am I

Who Am I 0

We have very little control or power over our lives, but the one thing we do have control over is our actions. If I really want to get to know myself, I need to watch myself while I am in action. What I do in each situation is a reflection of who I am. I [...]

Looking in the Mirror: 35 Years Sober with an *

Looking in the Mirror: 35 Years Sober with an * 2

I celebrate 35 years with an asterisk this month: 35 years ago I hit my false bottom. Brown-nosers are complicit in the fraud of education promulgated by schoolteachers, addiction counselors, and fellow 12 & 12 Members.  It doesn’t matter to me if it’s a Grade 3 classroom, a treatment center, or an AA meeting; I [...]

An Angry, Bitter Person

An Angry, Bitter Person 1

My spouse called me an angry, bitter person last night. It had been a long time since anybody had called me that… to my face. I was deeply hurt. The best I managed to do was to call him a coward. Hurt people hurt people, right? Over the past two years I’ve been working hard [...]

Crossroads

Crossroads 4

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Fantasy vs. Reality

Fantasy vs. Reality 0

I remember being about ten years old and on a class field trip to a nearby monument.  While the rest of the class was finishing up the tour, the first wave of students was granted permission to peruse the gift shop.  I remember being entranced by the beautiful jewelry under the bright lights and glass [...]

Acceptance, Trust, Authenticity

Acceptance, Trust, Authenticity 3

This year hasn’t been an easy one on a lot of levels. Take your pick: relationships, injuries, depression, health issues, financial issues, employment “challenges.” I’m a survivor, but I’m not catlike. I don’t always land on my feet. Sometimes I land in a heap and roll around on the ground for awhile, but I do [...]