Dr. Jamie Marich sent me this link today to share with the readers at The Cafe. It discusses whether or not your therapist disclosing some of their own experience is something that hinders or helps. There are differing opinions for sure and it’s something that most people in the therapeutic and life coaching fields grapple with all the time.
Even those of us who write about mental health and addiction issues wonder if they have the balance right!
On a personal note, I find it so helpful when I’m sitting with a therapist who can assure me they understand what I’m talking about. And not in “I learned it in a book” kind of way, but in a “I’ve been there worn the t-shirt” kind of way. Quite recently, while sharing a very unpleasant life experience, my therapist just simply said, “I too had a very similar experience.”
That helped me to feel so relaxed and validated I can’t put it into words. This particular situation is something that confused and shamed me to such a level, it impacted the rest of my life path insurmountably. And then that experience was validated by a person whom I have the utmost respect for in her capacity as a clinician and on a personal level. I no longer needed to find the words to express it. Her look and her empathy was enough to begin the healing of that particular thing.
I invite you to read her excellent article here and if you are inspired to, answer the survey, and give your valuable opinion on the subject.