Step 6: Embracing Readiness for Change
“Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.”
Recovery is a journey of transformation, and Step 6 is a pivotal moment in that process. It asks you to become entirely ready to have your character defects removed, signaling a deep willingness to change. This step is about acceptance, humility, and trust—acknowledging that personal growth requires letting go of old behaviors and embracing a new way of living.
Why Step 6 Is Important
Step 6 is often described as the bridge between self-awareness and action. By this point in the 12-step journey, you have already:
- Admitted your struggles (Step 1)
- Recognized a higher power (Step 2)
- Committed to change (Step 3)
- Examined your past behaviors (Step 4)
- Confessed your shortcomings (Step 5)
Now, Step 6 asks: Are you truly ready to let go of these defects? It’s not just about identifying flaws—it’s about preparing to release them. Without this willingness, lasting change becomes difficult, and old habits may resurface.
How to Accomplish Step 6
Identify Patterns That Hold You Back
Take time to reflect on the behaviors, attitudes, and emotional responses that have contributed to your past struggles. Ask yourself:
- What habits have harmed my relationships?
- What fears or resentments keep me stuck?
- How do my actions affect my well-being?
Lean on Your Support System
Recovery isn’t a solo journey. Talk to your sponsor, therapist, or support group about the challenges of Step 6. Hearing others’ experiences can provide perspective and encouragement.
Practice Self-Compassion
Letting go of character defects isn’t instant—it’s a gradual process. Be patient with yourself and recognize that progress, not perfection, is the goal.
Processing What Step 6 Means to You
Step 6 is deeply personal. It’s about accepting yourself while striving for growth. Some ways to process its meaning include:
- Journaling about your readiness for change and what that change may look like
- Meditating on the idea of surrender and transformation
- Discussing your insights with trusted mentors or peers
- Recognizing that willingness is an ongoing practice, not a one-time decision
Ultimately, Step 6 is about embracing the possibility of a better life. It’s a moment of courage—choosing to step forward, even when change feels uncertain.
Prepare for Step 7
Step 6 sets the stage for Step 7, where you will humbly ask your higher power to remove your shortcomings. By fully embracing Step 6, the transition to Step 7 becomes more natural and meaningful.
How to Prepare for Step 7
- Reflect on your journey so far – Look at how far you’ve come and recognize the progress you’ve made.
- Practice daily surrender – Whether through prayer, meditation, or affirmations, remind yourself that you’re ready to let go.
- Talk to your support system – Sponsors, mentors, or peers can help you process your readiness for this step.
- Embrace patience – Step 7 isn’t about instant transformation—it’s about being open to gradual change.
How to Know You’re Ready for Step 7
- You’ve fully embraced Step 6 – You’ve identified your character defects and genuinely want to let them go.
- You feel a shift in mindset – Instead of resisting change, you’re open to growth and transformation.
- You recognize that self-will alone isn’t enough – You understand that overcoming shortcomings requires more than just personal effort.
- You’re willing to trust the process – Even if you don’t know exactly how change will happen, you’re ready to take the next step.
- You feel a sense of humility – You acknowledge that you don’t have to carry everything alone and are open to guidance.
