Emotional Stability really is the end goal for most who seek recovery of any kind. Most of us find that the roller coaster highs and lows, when we are not in an ideal place, can be devastating to our human functioning. Here are some things to support emotional stability in our busy lives.
Stories We Tell Ourselves
Hands up who can create an entire scenario in our heads and make it fact in a nanosecond! Yea me too! I can go from zero to one hundred and back again assuming I know why someone did or said something and end up with the worst possible ending. Creating that rollercoaster effect without knowing any of what we think is true causes us the most pain. If you’re unsure about something ask!
Make Space for Yourself
We all live very busy lives and sometimes it can be difficult to find time for yourself to check-in with our feeling. Just because we ignore our feelings doesn’t mean they are not still hanging around waiting for their moment to shine. Having some downtime to process what’s going on inside is one of the most vital things to support emotional stability.
Pausing Before Reacting
When we are not fully aware of our emotions and emotional needs we often react rather than make informed choice. I’m the worlds worst for doing that. I’m in the middle of 10 different tasks at one time. I get a phone call informing me of something not so pleasant and instead of taking a breath, considering how to respond, I react from an already stressful place. We always have the option to breathe, think and respond rather than react. This approach saves more disaster later.
Have Some Fun
Most of what we do in our daily lives is obligatory. We work, take care of homes and children and generally provide for other peoples needs. Going long periods without finding time to do something you love and invigorates you will eventually lead to burnout. It’s like opening a pressure cooker to let the steam out. My favourite thing in the world is dancing, live music and laughing heartily. It never fails me.
Not Everything Is Urgent
We definitely live in a culture where urgency envelops us. Even if it’s not happening to us directly, our addiction to social media and our phones certainly perpetuates urgency culture. We are bombarded with texts, emails and calls that expect our immediate response. In fact much of what we “need” to respond to can wait at least a few hours and perhaps a few days. Take your time!
Very helpful info – thank you
Very helpful thank you