Romantic relationships, through the eyes of trauma

People that involve themselves in romantic relationships before healing their trauma wounds, are quite literally magnets for cyclical replay of experiences that remind them of whatever abandonment or abuse they experienced that they keep running away from. The reason this cycle plays out cyclically over and over again, is the yoUniverse does not pass you to the next grade . . .period. You cannot bribe or negotiate with the yoUniverse. You learn your lesson, sit and be present with the pain and do the shadow work to get through it and heal your inner child . . .or keep feeling abused or abandoned by every person you feel connected to. Free will is yours, but so many masochists running around out there out of ignorance, because they are afraid to face their shadows to attend to their own wounds. If you don't want to be alone in life, then you MUST heal. If you don't want to feel abused in life . ..you MUST heal. Einstein said: when a person keeps doing the same thing over and over, expecting different results; that is the definition of insanity. To keep running from a malignant emotional cancerous tumor, it's not going to vanish. It's going to continue growing as time passes, and with each emotional interaction in your interpersonal relationships, the pain for that inflammation and growth that you refuse to face and attend to will send you back screaming within yourself ---- like a turtle hiding in it's shell. What kind of quality of life is that? And how much better is it for a partner, who's been taking the time (weeks/months) to heal their wounds . .. how fair is it to them, for you to come to them with romantic gestures and advances to rekindle something, knowing FULL WELL you haven't done any of the inner work that you know they are doing? Relationships where 2 are UNevenly yoked, do NOT work. I encourage you, to heal your wounds, before opening yourself back up. Otherwise, you're going to perceive things from the view of that old injury that you choose to ignore out of fear. Have a good day. Namaste.